"When things are said in anger,irritation or frustration...

Hi all,
Greetings from Oman.

The other day I was reading an article by Success Coach - Robin Sharma , the subject was called Personal Leadership Through Anger Mastery.

Robin tells a story about anger mastery.

The story goes like this: " There was a boy who was always very angry and was short tempered. One day his father called him and handed him a bag of nails and a hammer.He said "Son whenever you feel angry take a nail and nail it on backyard fence. For each anger - a nail should be hammered to the fence."
On the 1st day itself the boy did 25 nails. Later in the weeks,the boy grew more aware of his anger and put fewer and fewer nails in the fence as days progressed.Although he never denied the anger that was there,in time he found it easier to silently experience his anger and then release it rather than angrily nail the nails into the fence.

Finally the day came when the young boy stopped losing his temper completely.He met his father and his father said to him "Son go and pull out a nail for each day that you did not manage you anger and hold it in a responsible way."A day later the boy went to his father after each hammered nail had been removed from the fence.

The father said" I am proud of you son.I would like you to look at the holes that you have made in the fence.When things are said in anger,irritation or frustration,you can put a hole into someone just like you have put a hole in the fence.Although you may retract your words and apologize, the scar can remain for a long long time.So be kind,compassionate and care for all people in your life. Life is a short journey and relationships are most important."

This ends the story.

I think no more explanation or opinion is needed for this story.The story is self explanatory.

To make the above idea about caring for other people more strong,I would like to add a quote by Robin "before someone will lend you a hand,you must touch their hearts"

Keep smiling and be caring

Suju.the.Archer.

“Do your big and important things first – then you will get time to do your little things later”

Recently I heard an audio by Dave Durand (this one can be downloaded for free using i-tunes software and searching the pod cast directory).

The audio was actually a lecture from one of his Time Management Skills seminar.

He tells a story – A professor was teaching a bunch of students. He takes a big glass jar and puts some big stones in it and fills it up. He then asks his students – whether the jar can be filled more? Without a beat all the students answered together “Not possible – as it completely filled”. Then the professor takes some smaller stones and drops it into the jar and it was successful and the jar could be filled more. Again the professor asks his students the same question “Can the jar be filled more?” Some students said “NO”. He then takes some every small stones and adds it into the jar and the jar could again be filled with more. Again repeated the question “Can this jar take more?” Asking this he takes some sand and he is able to fill up the jar and then later water was also poured into the jar and now the jar was in fact completely full.

The moral of the story is “Do your big and important things first – then you will get time to do your little things later”.

A simple example that comes to mind is like appearing for an exam – I used to go through my question paper and mark down all that questions whose answers I knew very well and had the highest marks. Then once all these answers were jotted down in my answer paper I used to then start writing answers for the low mark questions and the difficult ones. By doing this I used to actually secure the maximum marks in the beginning and then by answering the low marks questions I added further to my score. Many of us follow the same tactics in our exams.

So categorize your works/things that needs to be completed in a descending priority order and “Do your big and important things first – then you will get time to do your little things later”.

Bye and thank you valuable time.

Keep smiling,

Suju.the.Archer

“BE GRATEFUL ALWAYS TO WHAT YOU HAVE.”

The climate in gulf is very different. It’s too hot – temperature rises to 48-50 deg cel during the month June to Sept and has longer days (sunrises at 4.30 am and sets at 7 pm). And in addition to this, it has lot of humidity – cant even stand outside in the sun even for 1 min – it sweats.

But still people work here in gulf in this hot climate round the year to earn a better lifestyle in the future for themselves as well as for their loved ones. Some people are really very fortunate like me - The Company has provided me a car (1.6cc Nissan Sunny) and luxurious apartment.

The other day I was driving in my car on a very very hot sunny Friday. And it was too hot and my car air conditioner was not very effective and was not cooling the car at a rapid speed. I grumbled for having such a car (why didn’t the company provide me a much better powerful car?), such a lifestyle (working in gulf) and many such cursing thoughts ran through my mind like rapid fire – much faster than my car air conditioner.

And I started cursing myself for coming and working in this hot gulf area – I felt India was a much better place to work as the climate reaches a max of 35 deg cel.

Further as I was traveling in my car (during the mid-day) with all these thoughts I happened to drive close to a road construction site. There I saw people working during this hot climate (when the temperature was close to 48 deg cel) – with no proper safety clothes and infrastructure, no air condition, direct under the sun, with no proper cool drinking water, no shelter/shadow to hide one selves from the hot sun.

I felt sad and pity for these people. Looking at the suffering of these construction people all of a sudden all the above bad thoughts that I was thinking vanished. And I found myself at a better comfort level than these suffering people.

And I remembered an Old Persian saying that I recently read in one of the books by Robin Sharma which says “I cried for I didn’t have proper and good shoes to wear on my feet until I found a man with no feet”

Remembering this quote – I thanked god for giving all the good things that I have right now – a car with an air condition and working/staying in any office/apartment equipped with 24 hrs air conditioning facility.

So - BE GRATEFUL ALWAYS TO WHAT YOU HAVE.

Like a good family and relatives, good job, good health and many other things.

Keep smiling and keep growing.

Suju.the.Archer.